Unlearning....

To unlearn patterns of self-protection we must see how our behaviour is no longer working for us and choose to respond to life differently.

This is not an easy task when you have been operating in a certain way for so long and being defensive is so ingrained that it tends to be like an automatic reflex!

It can feel very vulnerable to ‘let your guard down’ especially if these guards were put in place to make us feel safe.

And when I say ‘safe’, I mean safe from feeling the depths of our feelings and expressing them in an open and honest way.

It's a struggle many of us inherited from childhood, where we learned to guard ourselves against vulnerability.

Where we learned to shield our hearts from the hurt.

Where we pretended we were ok, we suppressed and we protected because we didn’t feel supported and being vulnerable was considered a weakness.

To unlearn this, we must first feel safe enough in our own skin.

We must trust ourselves enough to soften, to feel, to nurture and to see the truth because it is in these moments of vulnerability that true healing begins.

It's in the courage to 'let our guard down' and confront the discomfort head-on that we begin to feel a sense of freedom.

We start to unravel the knots of fear and hesitation by allowing ourselves to be truly seen and heard with our hearts wide open.

This is not a weakness, this is our greatest strength!

Lisa xx